Nothing below the shoulders
We’ve all settled into our class schedules, and we’ve started to notice the cute boy or girl in our class whom we’re hoping to get to know (and then marry, obviously). Before making any advances it’s important that we establish a few things—namely, we must ask ourselves the question, “What are my boundaries?”
Not sure where to draw the line?
Illustration: Braden Jones
It’s taken me a while to solidify my boundaries, but one can never have too many. I once heard a story about a girl who let a boy touch her boobs, and then she got pregnant. That’s why I say, “nothing below the shoulders.”
Yes, you read correctly. No, you may not hold my hand (in public or elsewhere), unless of course, my hands are above my shoulders, then they are fair game and I’m all for it. It’s uncomfortable at first, but you’ll get used to it.
That also means no hand-upon-the-waist, or at the small of the back, or even the occasional butt-grab. It’s unfortunate, but necessary—you never know what’ll get you pregnant these days.
You know that awkward moment when you go in for a hug, and you’re not sure whose hands will go up and whose will go down? That never happens to me, because my “nothing below the shoulders” boundaries make it easy; we both just go up.
But don’t despair, boys, I can still make-out. Just don’t get carried away, because you and your grubby little hands can’t go past my shoulders.
Keep in mind that these are my personal boundaries. Yours may not be quite so liberal, and that’s okay.
Whatever you choose as your line is up to you (you might want to try nothing-below-the-eyes as a first step, and perhaps, after a while you could move your line down to the chin). As for me, all I know is that I can’t wait until my wedding day so that I can hold hands like they do on TV.
Ashley Kilian
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