Why is it that conflict permeates into all facets of society and culture? How is it that no matter how many times we try to change we always manage to bring ourselves back to square one when it comes to resolving conflict? More importantly, what is it about the way I choose to respond to conflict that inevitably makes more of it?

Recently I came to the conclusion that I want to study conflict for the rest of my academic career. While this may seem to be an odd fixation, the way I see it, conflict is one topic that transcends economics, sociological constructs and even time; simply, I figure I’ll never be out of work. I think this is the case because no one is excused from having conflict in their lives. We are all susceptible to it, and some of us are even controlled by our various conflictions.

As Christians, I fear we do a poor job of understanding some key biblical truths about conflict. Jim Van Yperen in his book Making Peace: A Guide to Overcoming Church Conflict says that there are five key biblical truths that all Christians should know about conflict. Firstly, conflict is a broken relationship. Secondly, conflict is a spiritual collision. Thirdly, conflict is inevitable. Fourthly, conflict is necessary. Lastly, conflict is an opportunity.

In order to challenge us all I want to focus specifically on the last three biblical truths. Conflict is inevitable, and – while this assertion may make some want to assume the fetal position while hiding in the corner – we know this to be true. In Galatians 5:17 the apostle Paul says, “for the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are at conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.” As such Van Yperen argues that conflict should not be a surprise to us. For all of us who dread being in conflict I want to remind us that the next biblical truth about conflict is that it is necessary. Some of the most incredible experiences I have had where I have truly felt humbled at the throne of God started with a conflict. Without sickness, we do not know health. Without evil, we do not know good. In this way without conflict, we do not know peace. We must remember that conflict in our lives is necessary for God to shape us.

Finally, conflict is an opportunity. In conflict we always have choice. We can choose to be crippled by the weight of the circumstances that befall us, or we can choose to live in light of the incarnation and view conflict as an opportunity. Conflict may be an opportunity to refine your life – to in a sense burn away the chaff. Perhaps conflict is an opportunity for ministry – to show your neighbour the love of God by the way we choose to deal with our conflicts. It could even be a way for God to bring focus and direction in a situation where we need guidance. Whatever the cause of the conflicts that you find yourself in, remember that you have a responsibility to be redemptive just as Christ redeemed you. I was reminded and challenged by Jim Van Yperen’s words that first and foremost redemption is an act of obedience and submission to God.